祝我生日快乐

二零零七年九月二十七号 - 三十四岁了！！！

不会怕老，其实还蛮享受现在这个阶段。对我而言三十到四十岁这个阶段是男人的黄金年华，开始懂得自己的人生要求些什么，开始享受成熟的滋味，开始在经济上和事业上稳定下来，可以拥有许多自己想要的东西。这样的感觉很好。。。。。。。。。

还有几个小时生日就到了，谁会是第一个献上生日祝福给我的人呢？？很快答案就会揭晓了。。。嘿嘿。。。。。。。。。。。。

祝我生日快乐吧，我的家人朋友们 ;p

A Touching Message

I know at first glance, it's a DAMN long story to read, but trust me,this is a very touching story, so please read it slowly, I've read it more than twice....

When You Divorce Me, Carry Me Out in Your Arm?

On my wedding day, I carried my wife in my arms. The bridal car stopped in front of our one-room flat. My buddies insisted that I carry her out of the car in my arms. So I carried her into our home. She was then plump and shy. I was a strong and happy bridegroom. This was the scene ten years ago.

The following days were as simple as a cup of pure water: we had a kid; I went into business and tried to make more money.When the assets were steadily increasing, the affection between us seemed to ebb. She was a civil servant. Every morning we left home together and got home almost at the same time. Our kid was studying in a boarding school. Our marriage life seemed to be enviably happy.

But the calm life was more likely to be affected by unpredictable changes. Dew came into my life.It was a sunny day. I stood on a spacious balcony. Dew hugged me from behind. My heart once again was immersed in her stream of love. This was the apartment I bought for her. Dew said, you are the kind of man who best draws girls' eyeballs. Her words suddenly reminded me of my wife. When we were just married, my wife said, Men like you, once successful, will be very attractive to girls. Thinking of this, I became somewhat hesitant. I knew I had betrayed my wife. but I couldn't help doing so. I moved Dew's hands aside and said you go to select some furniture, O.K.? I've got something to do in the company. Obviously she was unhappy, because I had promised to do it together with her.

At the moment, the idea of divorce became clearer in my mind although it used to be something impossible to me. However, I found it rather difficult to tell my wife about it. No matter how mildly I mentioned it to her, she would be deeply hurt. Honestly, she was a good wife. Every evening she was busy preparing dinner. I was sitting in front of the TV. The dinner was ready soon. Then we watched TV together. Or, I was lounging before the computer, visualizing Dew's body. This was the means of my entertainment.One day I said to her in a slightly joking way, suppose we divorce, what will you do? She stared at me for a few seconds without a word. Apparently she believed that divorce was something too far away from her. I couldn't imagine how she would react once she got to know I was serious.

When my wife went to my office, Dew had just stepped out. Almost all the staff looked at my wife with a sympathetic eye and tried to hide something while talking to her. She seemed to have got some hint. She gently smiled at my subordinates. But I read some hurt in her eyes.Once again, Dew said to me, He Ning, divorce her, O.K.? Then we live together. I nodded. I knew I could not hesitate any more. When my wife served the last dish, I held her hand. I've got something to tell you, I said. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the serious topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I'm serious. I avoided her question. This so-called answer made her angry.. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, because my heart had gone to Dew.With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. I felt a pain in my heart. The woman who had been living ten years with me would become a stranger one day. But I could not take back what I had said. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer.Late that night, I came back home after entertaining my clients. I saw her writing something at the table. I fall asleep fast. When I woke up, I found she was still there. I turned over and was asleep again.

She brought up her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but I was supposed to give her one-month time before divorce, and in the month's time we must live as normal a life as possible. Her reason was simple: our son would finish his summer vacation a month later and she didn't want him to see our marriage was broken. She passed me the agreement she drafted, and then asked me, He Ning, do you still remember how I entered our bridal room on the wedding day? This question suddenly brought back all those wonderful memories to me. I nodded and said, I remember. You carried me in your arms, she continued, so, I have a requirement, that is, you carry me out in your arms on the day when we divorce. From now to the end of this month, you must carry me out from the bedroom to the door every morning.I accepted with a smile.I knew she missed those sweet days and wished to end her marriage romantically.

I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she does, she has to face the result of divorce, she said scornfully. Her words more or less made me feel uncomfortable.My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. We even treated each other as a stranger. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly, Let us start from today, don't tell our son. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for a bus, I drove to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. We were so close that I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this intimate woman carefully for a long time. I found she was not young any more. There were some fine wrinkles on her face.On the third day, she whispered to me, the outside garden is being demolished. Be careful when you pass there.On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I seemed to feel that we were still an intimate couple and I was holding my sweetheart in my arms. The visualization of Dew became vague.On the fifth and sixth day, she kept reminding me something, such as, where she put the ironed shirts, I should be careful while cooking, etc. I nodded. The sense of intimacy was even stronger. I didn't tell Dew about this. I felt it was easier to carry her. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. I said to her, it seems not difficult to carry you now. She was picking her dresses. I was waiting to carry her out. She tried quite a few but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I smiled. But I suddenly realized that it was because he was thinner that I could carry her more easily, not because I was stronger. I knew she had buried all the bitterness in her heart.Again, I felt a sense of pain. Subconsciously I reached out a hand to touch her head. Our son came in at the moment. Dad, it's time to carry mum out. He said. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had been an essential part of his life. She gestured our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face because I was afraid I would change my mind at the last minute. I held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly, as if we came back to our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. She said, actually I hope you will hold me in your arms until we are old. I held her tightly and said both you and I didn't notice that our life lacked intimacy.That day, I jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my decision. I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door. I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I won't divorce. I'm serious.?She looked at me, astonished. The she touched my forehead. You got no fever..?She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew?I said, I can only say sorry to you, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of life, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I understand that since I carried her into the home, she gave birth to our child, I am supposed to hold her until I am old. So I have to say sorry to you.?Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove to the office. When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my wife which was her favorite. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote?I'll carry you out every morning until we are old.?

Very touching, right? Keep this message going and share a love with everyone.Just a reminder to those whom are married, do remember the reasons why you both are married to each other and today you all both still together?Bless you all to have found each other. Remember your vows at the altar that day!!And also for those, whom are single, enlighten yourself!!

SING like nobody's listening,DANCE like nobody's watching,LOVE like you've never been hurt,WORK like you don't need the money,LIVE like it's Heaven on Earth.

二零零七年度八月份中文专辑推荐

八月份有许多歌手纷纷推出新专辑。不过仔细聆听了许多重点专辑，最后决定只推荐一张专辑，那是新歌手罗文裕的“街头情歌 ”。

张惠妹的“STAR " 虽然有很多抒情好歌，但专辑曲风太杂乱，风格很不统一，也没有音乐性。久违了的娃娃的“是你。。。是你”其实每一首歌曲都瞒动听的，但编曲过于陈旧，让听者宛如回到八十年代，音乐风格也欠缺了新意，实数可惜。旺福的“青春舞曲"继续搞怪,以无厘头音乐风格延续其音乐里程碑,然而曲风与词意也开始呈现瓶颈现象,是时候改变音乐风格了. 温岚的"热浪"差一点被列入推荐大碟,最后割爱也是因为专辑音乐性不完整,摇摆不定的音乐曲风让听者无法全情投入整张专辑.不过专辑内好歌不少,温岚在演绎"喇叭嘴"和" 菜花贼"时让人惊艳不已,意象不到她的声音表情可以如斯丰富和多变 !!

九月份以后会有更多重点大碟纷纷出笼,期望能听到更多好的音乐 !!

推荐大碟 :

专辑名称 : 街头情歌

演唱歌手 : 罗文裕

推荐理由 :

在歌坛新歌手纷纷模仿周杰伦式的音乐风格的当儿,罗文裕选择了以一把原木吉他弹奏了简单纯粹的音乐,让我们听见了久违了的心灵感动.

第一次听见"我有多久没有对你说我爱你"时,我的眼眶不觉红了起来.这是一首歌颂亲情的歌曲,它唤醒了我们对父母的爱.

"記得小時候 在家巷子口 爸爸教我騎單車

發燒的時候 媽媽抱著我 燒退了 冰塊卻凍傷她的手

長大後 努力追求嚮往天空 沉默卻比話說的還多

我有多久沒有對你說我愛你 你卻愛我更勝你自己

你的白髮和眼角多了幾條魚 讓你孤單單怎麼忍心 "

你被感动了吗??

"你是我的心肝宝贝"写的是朋友失去宝贝孩子的真实故事. 为人父母者肯定会被深深感动,是一首会让人泪水决提的歌曲.

"忽然之間 一個改變 生命失去了知覺

我不埋怨 堅強面對 妳離開的那一夜

一張照片 帶我回到 妳懵懵懂懂的童年

我的肩曾是妳的遊樂園 給妳的愛直到永遠

妳是我的心肝寶貝

妳在妳的世界沉沉的睡

還來不及多愛妳一些 天使卻帶妳往更遠的地方飛

妳是我的心肝寶貝

答應從此不會再讓妳掛念

偶爾妳對這個家會想念

記得到夢裡 給爸爸媽媽背背 "

很真实的感动吧 ??

专辑内还有歌颂友情的" 想当年" , 令人神伤的爱情哀悼曲"时间伤口",沉溺于恋爱的甜蜜曲"恋爱了","你比谁都重要".

整张专辑活生生的呈现了生命完整的感动,友情,亲情,爱情不就是人类难以割舍的三大情愫吗??

生活可以很复杂,音乐却可以很简单.

罗文裕以最简单的音乐带给我们一次深深的感动.

推荐歌曲 : 我有多久没有对你说我爱你 , 你是我的心肝宝贝 , 恋爱了,你比谁都重要,时间伤口.

推荐指数 : 三颗半星

二零零七年度八月份EP推荐

来到了八月份，有两张重点EP一定要推荐给大家 :



专辑名称 : 突破
演唱歌手 : 范晓萱

推荐理由 :

正如专辑名称,范晓萱的突破之作.首度尝试摇滚曲风的她竟也胜任有余,颇有潜能成为摇滚天后.声音表情丰富的她诠释不同风格的歌曲皆有不错的表现.从偶像歌手的台式情歌到蓝调,爵士乐,清新小品及摇滚,我们一直无法预测范晓萱的下一个音乐曲风.而她也总是为大家带来一连串的惊喜.

"这种女孩"以自己为蓝本并自我讽刺, "属于" 带出人类本是个体的宗教哲学观,"WHY "又是一首淡淡的爱情小品. 虽然只有三首歌,范晓萱却带出了强烈的音乐震撼.

很可惜的是这是张三曲EP,否则的话这会是今年度的重点推荐大碟.

推荐歌曲 : 这种女孩, 属于, WHY

专辑名称 : 夏树的期待

演唱歌手 : 黄建为

推荐理由:

刚拿下台湾金曲奖最佳新人奖的全新EP.还是一样很清新的吉他民谣曲风,还是一样很清新的唱腔.专辑重唱了已故歌手蔡蓝钦的经典歌曲"这个世界",带出了全新的民谣风格.

"蝴蝶"有两个版本,钢琴版本很感人,带出了淡淡的伤感的情绪铺成.

"爱的Sha La La "类似上张专辑的主打歌曲风"Over The Way", 感觉像拿了把吉他在一片广阔的稻田里轻吟低回.

喜欢民谣曲风的话,这是张很不错的专辑,不要错过了.

推荐歌曲: 蝴蝶 ( 钢琴版 )

二零零七年度八月份推荐单曲

陈升 : 航班116




张惠妹 : 如果你也听说 , 谁爱我




卢广仲 : 啊!!大岩壁

温岚 : 同手同脚 ,喇叭嘴 ,采花贼 , 口袋.

罗文裕 : 我有多久没有对你说我爱你 , 你是我的心肝宝贝 ,时间伤口 ,想当年,恋爱了,你比谁都重要

范晓萱 : 这种女孩 ,属于,WHY

娃娃 : 今天只想要放假 ,放过自己 , 我需要你

旺福 : 丑小鸭 , 好朋友应该做的芭乐事 , 就在今夜 ,看不见的道理.

黄建为 : 蝴蝶

伍思凯 : 收集

贾立怡 : 独奏

陈伟联 : 普通的人 ,亲爱的作个好梦 , I LOVE YOU.

一个人生活

不知不觉已经一个人在耶加达生活了一年五个月。

一个好朋友到我耶加达的住家时给了这样的评语：你怎么能忍受一个人这样过了这么久？

的确呀，一个人的生活是很寂寞的。我们可以享受个人空间，但太多了就不好。什么事情都不能太多，太多了也许会产生负面效果。陈绮贞有首歌就叫“太多”， 歌词这么写着：喜欢一个人孤独的时刻，但不能喜欢太多。。。。

我也期望每天早上起床时身边有虫虫和宝贝，每天下班回家时宝贝会跑到门前迎接我，周末时陪宝贝游泳，陪虫虫做运动。。。。。。。。。。

但有时候现实的考量不得不让我暂时放弃一些原本属于我的东西。得到一些总会失去一些，上天向来就是这么样考验人类。。。。。

这段一个人的生活岁月将会是我以后很难忘的一段日子。日子虽然寂寞但很充实。我终于有机会健身，把身体练得壮一些，身材比以前好看了很多。我终于有机会学高尔夫球，还挺好玩的，不像一些人说的是老人玩的运动。还有许多自由自在的空间（虫虫看到这儿肯定会骂我，哈），可以在没人干扰的情况下看完一套韩剧，可以一个人大声地在家里唱卡拉OK. .........

最难熬的是佳节来临时思乡的情怀,还有生病时一个人品尝可怜的孤独感...............

感觉自己成熟了许多,这对一个三十多岁正值黄金年华的男人来说应该是件可喜的好事吧.......

未来的生命会有更多意想不到的挑战,勇敢如我者可是做好了迎击的准备了!

生命万岁!!!

P/S :插图是我在耶加达的温暖窝.不大不小摩登设计的落脚处是我的小小天堂.它将会伴我度过三年一个人的岁月..............

八年了，谢谢你！！！

九月十七号是我们的纪念日。

蓦然回首，原来我们已经走过八年的岁月。

八朵不同颜色的玫瑰代表八个不同的年份，从1999年跨越到2007年。每一个不同的阶段都记载了我们欢喜悲伤和喜怒哀乐的印记。

谢谢你这八年来的照顾和关爱。

未来的日子还很漫长，我们还得携手一起走过未来无数的岁月和面对生活里的一切挑战！

感谢和我一起走过的日子，感谢你带给我的一切。

期望你继续多多包容我和体谅我。有犯错和照顾不周的时候，有让你失望和伤心的时候，请原谅我的莽撞和无知。

但愿，执子之手，与子偕老 ！！！

一个动人的亲情故事

照片里的男子是我在耶加达的一个好朋友。这是他幸福的全家福照。

认识他是一个机缘。我目前租用的公司是他以前当经理时的商用单位。我也是和他洽谈租金而认识的。也许是缘分吧，我们很谈得来，他有事时总会和我谈谈，这还包括了他的私事。

在这里想提一提他的故事，这是一个很感人的亲情故事。

他是个重情义的男子，对家人更是好的没话可说。他有两个和他感情很要好的弟弟。他们可以共享同一件衣服，吃同样的东西，睡同一张床。几年前他的二弟在一场意外中丧生，痛不欲生的他很珍惜和剩下的那个弟弟的情缘。

那个小弟的命运也很坎坷。新婚不久的他发现妻子患上了末期乳癌。他到处奔波，带妻子去了马来西亚和新加坡治疗。弟弟每天伤心的打电话向他哭诉自己的绝望，很担心妻子会离他而去。他为了给弟弟精神上的鼓励和帮助弟弟，毅然辞去了高薪的工作，放下自己的妻子和孩子，飞到巴淡岛和弟弟一起住，并在那儿找新的工作。

后来弟弟的妻子还是死了。伤心欲绝的弟弟情绪很不稳定，也不想离开巴淡岛回耶加达。他很担心弟弟会自杀，于是继续留在巴淡岛陪他和开解他，一个星期只见家人一次。贤慧的太太很体谅他，帮他照顾好家里和孩子，让他安心的留在巴淡岛。

目前他还是来来回回的往返之间，继续当个伟大的哥哥，协助弟弟复原心理的伤口。这样的转折让他当起老板来，做起自己的小本生意。

由于我也一个人只身在外，和家人一个月只见一次面，所以他的心情我很了解。也因为这样的共同情况，我和他也更惺惺相惜，成为更谈得来的朋友。他回耶加达见家人有空时总会和我见上一面，聊一聊彼此的近况。

许多人可以为爱情付出一切并作出以上的牺牲。然而却不是每个人能为自己的兄弟姐妹如此牺牲。我很感动于他对亲情的那份伟大的情操，像这样大情大义的男子在至今已不多见。

在爱着自己的太太和孩子的当儿，不要忘了双亲的爱和兄弟姐妹间的爱。所有和你在今生连在一起的家人都是和你有缘分的人。好好的珍惜每一个在你身边的家人，惜缘，惜福。

又地震了！！！

耶加达又感受到地震的余波了！！！

昨晚六时十五分左右，耶加达高楼民众纷纷落荒而逃，从高楼跑到底楼，原因是感受到强烈的余震。我管辖的公司也不能幸免，员工们皆纷纷奔逃。当时我正好在外，所以逃过了这次的余震。两位从马来西亚前来的同事犹如惊弓之鸟，脸上尽是精魂未辅的表情。

今早据说又发生了两次余震，但我却没感觉到。我想震动度不强吧！！

报道说这次是7。9级的地震，发生点在苏门答腊，离耶加达尚远。

在这里向大家报平安，我没事，不必担心.

他们的对话

宝贝 ：妈妈，我画了一幅画。

妈妈 ：哇，画里有爸爸，妈妈和宝贝。宝贝还画下了1，2，3，4，5岁时模样。可是，为什么五岁的画面里被你折了起来，而且没看到爸爸呢？？

宝贝 ：因为我一到四岁时爸爸是和我在一起的。到了我五岁的时候，爸爸是在电脑里面的。

妈妈 ：。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。

祝福

三弟一家四口和小丸子上个礼拜到耶加达一游，为我平静的生活加添了一些色彩。

虽然病了，但还是打起精神带他们四处走走，主要景点当然少不了闻名的野生动物园和死火山口。他们也品尝了许多可口的当地素食，开开心心的玩上几天的光景。

发现三弟和太太都发胖了。抱着两个千金的两人幸福洋溢在脸上。也许幸福的人们总会心旷体胖吧，在这里祝福他们能一直这么幸福到老。。。。。。。。。。。。。

小丸子瘦了一大圈。月贝凡看了很心痛。现在她已人在悉尼，继续她的深造美梦。在这里祝福她早日学成归来，也希望下一回见到她时是副红润润的模样。。。。。。。。。。。。。。

二零零七年度七月份单曲推荐

张悬 ：亲爱的，喜欢 ，儿歌，嫁祸进行式，模样，毕竟，并不

这位太太 ：而我（眼已垂落），我看到很多人，走进店里。

张震岳 : 就让这首歌 ,小宇,OK

星光帮 : 人质 ( 杨宗纬 )

五月天 : 私奔到月球 ( 陈绮贞合唱 )

欧得洋 : 手心手背,二次感冒,上花轿.

南拳妈妈 : 无暇, 我们.

王立宏 : 落叶归根, 星期六的深夜.

黄贯中 : 带走你的回忆

叮当 : 离家出走,可以不可以

回声乐团 : 无声的轮廓,Jarvis Anderson,被溺爱的渴望,地震歌,可能性

周杰伦 : 不能说的秘密